Posting after almost 2 years, a lot of lessons learnt and experiences gathered in this time. Eventhough I look forward to posting more regularly, I refrain from expressing my thoughts unless I feel radically about them. This indeed reduces the frequency, but I believe the subjects at hand have a deeper meaning.
We often use the term, “Life is a race.” It is indeed true, and it is this thought that keeps the fire burning within ourselves.
Those of us who are ambitious have planned our moves months in advance and have calculated the best possible approach at every given situation. To ensure maximum results, we have also kept multiple options open to ensure the effort against success ratio never falls to a level that ends up being demotivating.
This sounds perfect for the times things go as per plan. Being someone who thinks ahead and keeps varied options, it seems as though we can handle situations slightly better than others as well. This gives us a sense confidence, the thought of possibly mastering the art of gaining results. But then there are days in the doldrums.
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Every once in a while, sometimes for months on end, everything seems either stagnant or is going wrong. No matter how hard you try, re-visit old strategies and try new ways, things just do not happen the way they are suppose to. In most cases, things are not moving. Even if they do after a lot of effort, they mostly end in failure. It is at these moments that we loose hope, get irritated, feel weak and start blaming ourselves for becoming inefficient. What is also funny is that these situations often end up occurring together in both the private as well as the professional sphere.
These moments no matter how frustrating, if used properly can be the training periods for every individual to level up. When situations are not fixing itself with the mechanisms that were working before, it is a sign that there is a need for upgrade. This upgrade can be physical, mental, strategic as well as spiritual. Whenever the tides hold still, take a break from going ahead and concentrate on self actualization and betterment. Have those critical sessions, speak to the experienced and analyze the flaws in the processes at stake.
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It is often a matter of time, the right people, projects, jobs, businesses or partners are taking a while to come. Unless they do, focus of self polishing and keep positive towards the possibilities of succeeding again. At every new opportunity, one must leverage their new learned skills/strategies and see if the right results occur. With every failure or redundancy, take notes and prepare for the next opportunity.
Holding on to old failures is something one must get over. Previous relationships, partnerships, assignments and possibilities that had a good run but were cut short need to be left alone. Eventhough they may feel like a waste, the experience gathered and the knowledge obtained is priceless, knowing fully well what gets a particular thing going and for how long and when the change is needed.
If you are old enough to relate to the problems in question, it is safe to say you have overcome a lot of such times to reach wherever you currently are. The fact that you have achieved this little level of support, assurance and sanity is proof that you have the abilities to tackle hard situations and continuously modify your existing self.
Whether in your career, family or love life, we must all take a pit stop. It does delay us in finishing the race, but it is a necessary practice to brush up our abilities, refuels our minds with newer insights and to change existing mindsets and move on with the times. With the right gear, the rest of the race is always a smoother, more efficient ride.
Another delayed post, almost as though I have started expressing my thoughts through some other medium, or have lesser thoughts to express. But neither is true, as one grows more mature, he takes to keeping his thoughts to himself or sharing it with an intimate group of people, and this often leads to lesser debate on the effectiveness of what is being thought as well as lesser learning from the experiences of others with similar mindsets.
We are often left alone at certain junctions in our lives where everything seems to be insecure. A time when your career is yet to take off (most effective statement for the entrepreneurial lot), your personal life is in a mess (an understatement) and every time you zero in on a person you thought you could trust, you realize you couldn’t be more wrong. It is at these moments you feel that life cannot not get worse, and on the immediate next day something bad happens in the place where you least expect it to.
Now frankly, stopping everything and running away is a great option. Just forget whatever you started, remove all those people who you thought add meaning to your life and leave the city, if possible the country. You are good enough to find a job anywhere else, there is no need to take such stress and give birth to an ulcer or overshoot your blood pressure. But then, that is not how it actually ends.
You end up fearing your past, feeling uncomfortable while looking back to who you were and who you wanted to become. There will definitely come a time when you will look back and think to yourselves, “I ran when I could have stayed and made it better. I could’ve done so much if I had the patience to do so and the faith in myself.”
To quote the legendary Steve Jobs, a man who I feel really struggled to get himself to where he did, ” Sometimes life is gonna hit you on the head with a brick, don’t loose faith.” At a time when it all seems to be coming down on you, the only right thing to do is fight it back head on. Fighting it back does not always mean being ruthless in your approach, the best fights are won with a smile and a calculative mind, making note of when to strike enemy to ensure maximum effect. For you, the enemy may not be a single person, it may be a situation or multiple created by individuals around you. It pays to stay quite and let the tide cool, and then take steps forward to fix whatever went wrong, or start them afresh, always with a smile. Be it the struggles of being a budding entrepreneur, the perils brought in by the one you truly love or the inability to trust people with anything important because like before, they may let you down when you needed their support the most (both professionally and personally). This is your battlefield, do not let the enemy take advantage.
Patience is always the key, no matter how old you become, problems will always be there. Multiple problems such as the ones you are facing can only get more intense from here on, trust in yourself that you can pull it off and wait patiently for your opportunity.
It is OK to break down in disappointment, we are all humans at the end of the day. It is OK to sometimes not, “Be Strong” but admitting defeat and running away is something one must avoid from considering. Your enemy I repeat is the negative situation created around you. Fighting it back with a smile and effective thinking, sometimes apologizing first and over performing later is the way the leaders of today can best win their battles for success.
Ask yourself, these following questions every time you feel like letting go:
For your career–
“Why did I start this in the first place?”
“What was I expecting to achieve”
“Do I still want it? How Badly?”
“If I trust this person and am let down like before, what is my plan B”
For your relationships–
“Is he/she still the same person I had originally met”
“Am I gaining the same mental peace and happiness that I once expected from the person”
“Is the effort to stay in touch only one sided?”
With the passing of each day, we become better and more experienced at handling our own problems. The most successful people in the world have learned on what to keep pushing for, and what to let go. Whom to give a second chance to and whom to banish from their life forever. And these decisions happen after a lot of trial and error, the key at the end of it all, is to not loose faith, the rest will fall into place.